Bringing up teenagers in any city in the world has it’s trials and tribulations but for a huge expat community being a parent of a teenager suddenly means a whole new set of responsibilities. And while our children were little, no one will deny that having a maid to help out with the domestic drudgery meant we had more time to explore stimulating classes and play sessions but no amount of staff (well maybe a driver would help!) can provide respite from the often fraught path of teenage life.
Many of us have spent part of our summers back in our home countries where often teenagers can dress differently, behave differently, speak differently and importantly the repercussions of their behavior are dealt with differently by the authorities than they are here. That’s not to say one system is better than the other, there are problems everywhere but this is where we live so we need to work within the confines of the norms here.
We as parents have to carefully balance a teenager’s natural desire to carve out an identity for themselves and all that brings with it with social pressures, peer pressures and study pressures in the context of the country we live in without it feeling like a constant battle ground for all concerned.
Well that’s easier said than done, does your teenager go to all the parties/gatherings they’ve been invited to? Do you pick them up at the door or allow them to come home in a taxi with a friend ? What is a reasonable time for a 17 year old to be expected home ? What is a reasonable amount of revision to do before a test or exam ? Are sleepovers ok during term time or should they be saved for holidays ? Do you ban blackberries at mealtimes at least ? Do you really think they MUST have an ipad/iphone as schools are using more and more technology? Is the only option to have a laptop in their bedrooms? Should you pull the plug out of the internet at night ? I really don’t know !
These types of issues will be addressed in a talk that’s happening on the 15th of October in Dubai. Carole Spiers, a renowned motivational speaker who has 3 children of her own and works in the UK and the UAE is leading a talk/workshop called NEGOTIATING THE TEENAGE TUNNEL and this talk is aimed at parents of any teenagers based here in the UAE. For Dhs 100 a ticket it’ll be money well spent and maybe mark the beginning of a series of talks that will provide some much needed guidance and practical support for parents.
Click here for how you can come to this talk.
Let me know if you think this type of workshop is a good idea and also send me in your key concerns surrounding your teenager and DoinDubai will send them in to Carole Spiers who will try and incorporate some answers in her talk.
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